No one recovers anything by ignoring the problem.
If a person lost their wealth, they would RECOVER it by getting new work, more work, investing smarter, etc.
If a person lost their wealth, they would RECOVER it by getting new work, more work, investing smarter, etc.
If a person lost their health, they would RECOVER it by seeking professional medical attention, changing their diet and habits, going to rehab, etc.
If a person lost their child they would RECOVER the child by seeking outside help such as law enforcement, or detectives, or psychiatrists, etc.
Losing something is a terrible experience, but we MUST accept that RECOVERY of some kind is necessary. RECOVERY is the counter balance of loss. However extremely hurtful the loss of it was, the work of recovery will and must match the pain. Unfortunately, because of the pain, the recovery process feels more difficult than the initial loss itself. But if you deem what you lost valuable enough, you will pay the price of RECOVERY.
In the foggy-minded aftermath of great loss it is possible to not understand exactly WHAT needs to be recovered. Truly all we care about recovering is the missing main object of our affection. Whether or not that is possible to recover is not entirely in your power. However, other "things" get lost along the way; such as self-esteem, faith, tenderness, innocence, joy, etc. These are "things" of the spirit, therefore the recovery of them will require a spiritual plan of action.
I've lost much. I truly do not want to publicly say all that I've lost because I risk appearing to attempt to garner sympathies. I appreciate prayer, but I'm not all that fond of sympathy. Simply telling you I've been through the pangs, embarrassment, sorrow, and shameful feelings of divorce will give you a significant insight into some of my loss. I only relay even that much information to give you confidence in the following plan. (No "sorry for your loss" flowers please. Or consoling pats of pity.)
I've lost much. I truly do not want to publicly say all that I've lost because I risk appearing to attempt to garner sympathies. I appreciate prayer, but I'm not all that fond of sympathy. Simply telling you I've been through the pangs, embarrassment, sorrow, and shameful feelings of divorce will give you a significant insight into some of my loss. I only relay even that much information to give you confidence in the following plan. (No "sorry for your loss" flowers please. Or consoling pats of pity.)
This "Purposeful Recovery" prayer plan is just one of the many tools I've developed and used in my own struggle to get my head above the drowning currents of confusion, depression, and bitternes. It was a long road, before I finally felt like walking the rest of the road before me. Most days I did NOT want to wake up, dress, and put forth even the menial effort of one foot in front of the other. But thanks to great training, I did. And now, I DO.
Don't give up in the midst of your swelling, pounding waves. The storm produces feelings of anger, sadness, jealousy, confusion, and even the lack of ALL emotional feelings. This is absolutely normal. It's not enjoyable, by any means. But these emotional swings do not mean you are a bad person. What it does mean, however, is that you have work to do. Settling with all those negative inner-turmoils as an acceptable lifestyle is very destructive. Not only to yourself, but to anyone you are in contact with. (And no, Isolating yourself isn't the answer, because your lack of presence is damaging to your community of people as well.)
Don't give up in the midst of your swelling, pounding waves. The storm produces feelings of anger, sadness, jealousy, confusion, and even the lack of ALL emotional feelings. This is absolutely normal. It's not enjoyable, by any means. But these emotional swings do not mean you are a bad person. What it does mean, however, is that you have work to do. Settling with all those negative inner-turmoils as an acceptable lifestyle is very destructive. Not only to yourself, but to anyone you are in contact with. (And no, Isolating yourself isn't the answer, because your lack of presence is damaging to your community of people as well.)
Get on the path to Purposeful Recovery.
Here we go. I hope taking these very deliberate steps in prayer and relationship with God will help you as much as they've helped me. You could take each deliberate prayer focus hour by hour some days, or give each point its own week of focus. I have done them on an hourly basis for a week, then gone to another program, then came back to these steps. However you sense these steps would be beneficial to you is how you should enact them.
Here we go. I hope taking these very deliberate steps in prayer and relationship with God will help you as much as they've helped me. You could take each deliberate prayer focus hour by hour some days, or give each point its own week of focus. I have done them on an hourly basis for a week, then gone to another program, then came back to these steps. However you sense these steps would be beneficial to you is how you should enact them.
Purposeful Recovery 1: SPEAK your need of God TO GOD. Saying it triggers hope and sends faith into the atmosphere.
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2031:1-4&version=NLT
Purposeful Recovery 2: REITERATE your trust in God often. After you speak how you want God to be your refuge, then make yourself and your atmosphere HEAR that you are believing God IS WORKING for you.
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2031:5&version=NLT
Purposeful Recovery 3: ACKNOWLEDGE what or who brought you pain. Bitterness is clearly not permissible in our lives. But facing facts is necessary for recovery.
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2031:6-8&version=NLT
Purposeful Recovery 4: COMPLAIN to God. While it's harmful to your social standing to complain, you show your desire for relationship by TELLING God what things are causing your pain.
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2031:9-13&version=NLT
Purposeful Recovery 5: REQUEST what you are wanting him to do. In the previous step you describe what you don't like. Now speak what you want him to do for you!
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2031:14-18&version=NLT
Purposeful Recovery 6: CLAIM the blessings! If he did it before (and he did!) He will do it again FOR YOU! Claim them by SPEAKING them.
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2031:19-20&version=NLT
Purposeful Recovery 7: PRAISE him in a seriously braggadocios manner! Make yourself dig through your current sorrow and find every nugget of blessing he's ever given ANYONE, and thank him for it!
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2031:21-22&version=NLT
Purposeful Recovery 8: ENCOURAGE others, even in your own pain and distress. Tell them how God is able to help THEM!
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2031:23-24&version=NLT
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